Why do we say this about people? “He/She’s doing nothing with his/her life”. That statement is actually false, no matter who we say it about. Everyone is doing something with their life….something. Whether they’re in school, mastering a trade, working on their career, or even just sitting around watching television. There isn’t a single person on this planet who is doing nothing with their life.
I’ll be the first to admit, I have said this about a few people. At the time, I wished that it were true. But why do we feel the need to say this? Is it anger, jealousy or maybe our own ego? I’ve grown to hate this phrase.
I feel that when you refer to someone this way, you’re saying something more complex about the way you view the world. It really means that you believe that some people are disposable while others aren’t. Some people don’t matter, aren’t worthwhile, or don’t contribute in anyway. Do you really feel that way?
I’ve found that the more I say something, the more I really believe it. In fact, I’ve heard that this happens to most people. So, the more this term is used, the more that the general public believes it. That’s unfortunate.
Certainly, there are people who are working harder and accomplishing things more publicly. However, everyone faces unique challenges in life and celebrates different successes. There is no correct way to live life. There are no rules. Although society tries to enforce rules about how you should live, that doesn’t mean that you have to conform to them.
For example, in general, if you hear that a 40 year old woman had a baby….you’d probably think, “Isn’t she a little bit old to have a baby”? Or if you meet a fifty year old man who is a bar tender, you’d probably think that he is a bit of a bum. Even young adults do it, judging each other based on what college they go to, or if they go at all. Who cares? How does it really impact you?If you have enough time to stop and judge these people, then you have enough time to better yourself.
So, long story short; stop speaking negatively about other people. It isn’t going to do anything but make you a meaner, more negative person. This is just something that has been bothering me for a while and I felt the need to say it.
As you all know, I hate Sunday nights. Here I sit, yet again..wondering if this will be the week that changes my life. I’ve taken a pretty awesome step towards my “dreams” this weekend, but I still feel like this is taking forever. I am a patient person most of the time, it’s just that I’ve been waiting so long for my hard work to pay off. But, I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again…I’ll never fail, because I’ll never stop trying.